Ct, the OB/Dipole sub is a completely different animal than any sealed or ported sub. If you want a plug & play Rythmik sub, you'll need to go with the F15HP (or the smaller E15HP; same amp and woofer, just a slightly smaller cabinet). The OB/Dipole is available only as a kit (a plate amp and two 12" woofers), the W-or H-frame the woofers are installed in needing to be custom built. But you could have the frame(s) built for you locally, from the diagrams on the GR Research site. The GR Research Forum on AudioCircle is where you can find all the discussion of the OB/Dipole sub, not on the Rythmik AVS Forum.
The back-and-forth with Rythmik you've been having has been with Brian's right hand man Enrico. You can see his set-up, including sub locations, in his profile.
Your finding of subs being "slower" than your Quads is of course very common amongst not just Quad owners, but all planar owners, especially those of electrostatics. The seeming slowness, or lack of speed, of subs comes not from their inability to follow the steep front edge of a transient, but in their inability to "stop" when the signal does, referred to as "overshoot". Rythmiks in contrast "stop on a dime" as the old expression goes. Another reason is the relatively high moving mass of a lot of subwoofer cones, the mass storing energy. Mass is often added to woofer cones to lower their resonant frequency, but not without a penalty---the added mass and stored energy decreases the driver's "inter-transient silence", resulting in a less transparent sound. Brian Ding has a patented Direct Servo Feedback design in his plate amps and woofers, and it makes for a very clean, quick, transparent sound from the custom-made 8, 12, and 15 inch drivers.
The OB/Dipole sub I thought would be of particular interest to you Ct. It is an even better match with both your Quad and Eminent Technology loudspeakers than a regular Rythmik. The sub includes the DSF design, but the Dipole design and configuration gives it several advantages over a sealed or ported sub for use with planar speakers. First, it has the same figure-of-8 radiation pattern as planar loudspeakers, with a null at each side, so the sub can be placed side-by-side with the planar (allowing the use of a higher x/o frequency, for instance the 180Hz of the ET LFT-8b). Secondly, the fall-off of output with increasing distance from a speaker is less with planars than non-planars (including subs); with a Dipole sub, the balance between it and any planar loudspeaker remains constant, no matter the listening distance. That is NOT true of a planar loudspeaker with a non-planar sub, the balance between those two varying according to listening distance.
As to locating subs nearfield to reduce possible distortion, consider this: The limiting factor in a hybrid loudspeaker/sub pairing will be the maximum output of your loudspeakers, not the sub. When your Quads have reached their maximum SPL, the subs will still be coasting! The choice of sub location can therefore be determined from other considerations, it's seamless integration with the loudspeakers being the priority, I presume. Since you can't hear the Gr Research/Rythmik OB/Dipole Sub before purchase, I highly recommend reading all about it on the GR AudioCircle Forum. It's VERY special!