Funny you should ask because I have on my "buy and try" list right now the First Watt J2 and F3, so I haven't heard them yet but will soon. I'm very curious about the JFET models. I would also jump on an F1J, if I can ever find one, to see what a current-source amp sounds like.
I'm totally with you on the bleached out performance of a lot of top-flight stereos. But the people I've known with stereos like that don't really listen to music. They have the gear, but never really use it.
I heard a system once that had the most incredible tone. Mine is extremely good because I value that, but this system was amazing: Auditorium 23 Solovox speakers (ugly but magical) with Shindo Haut Brion + Masseto. Wow! Soundstaging wasn't great, but it sure had body and soul to spare. I was very impressed. I haven't owned any Shindo yet but that's on my list too - probably one of the little 6V6 amps as I've always liked the 6V6 sound, but I wouldn't turn down a Montrachet.