Surely, you must have meant the opposite of what you wrote "...there is no one best of anything that is going to sound better on our own gear." You must have meant to have written: There is no single piece of gear that will synergize with every system. With that statement I completely agree. Anyways, the only sure way to know if something enhances one's stereo is to try it but when you listen to as many different combinations of gear (some more synergistic than others) as I have you start to get a feel for these things; call it a "hunch" or "male intuition." Anyways, it seems as though we aren't on the same wavelength so I'll just stop corresponding with you.
Cheers,