As a vintage hi-fi user, who was also on the merry-go-round, (no not to the point of most here) I agree with you.. completely. I have a buddy who thinks I am nuts with my Citation system. He uses (and has since 1976) a Sony 6800 receiver, Dual 1219 turntable, EPI 350 speakers and the same Advent cassette deck that you have.. the 201. (I use a 201A). His system sounde very good, phono section always surprises me with how quite it is, and the EPI's are awesome. I think all of us need a reality check.. And yes, I would rather listem with my wife than any audio buddy.
Norman